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I am a young girl of 18, and my boyfriend is a year older. We were happily together for about a year and a half until I found he had been trying to cheat while I was on holiday. I had came back, and we had decided to go to a party, although later we had an argument and I walked out. He then split up with me that night, claiming I had 'trust issues' and I 'controlled' him. All that night however he was texting me, telling me how he was nothing without me, he loved me and couldn't be without me. He also told me several of my mates were talking about me behind my back, including my best mate. We had an argument and fell out for several days. I was then told by a close friend what he had been up to that night. He swore he had not been talking about me with the others, but the truth was that he was telling everyone who would listen how crazy I was, how controlling I was, and every other name under the sun. He has also been trying it on with my best friend, had had made many sexual advances on her throughout the night, including flashing her and trying to get her to touch his genitals. I was also told that throughout the week I was on holiday he had been trying to flirt and seduce 2 separate girls. I saw the messages he had sent to them both on texts and social network sites, and confronted him. He broke down and admitted it all. I was so disgusted I ordered him out of my life, although once I had calmed down, we tried to talk it through. My boyfriend says he does not know why he did it, he was upset(although he could not be upset for an entire week) and he likes attention off girls. After asking around I had found out about another girl but that was just flirting. If I chose to believe rumours he also had phone sex several times and text dirty messages to another girl who lives up north. He insists I am the love of his life and we were meant to be, and sometimes I believe him. But then I think back to the relationship as a whole, and I am not so sure. He constantly told me what to do, what not to do, turn me and my friends against each other, and even though we are no longer together he still tells me what I can and cannot do. It's selfish but I never felt like I was treated the way I wanted to be, he never told me how pretty I was, or how much I meant to him, and even now, when my confidence is rock bottom he does not tell me if I am pretty or not without prompts. I hate him, but I love him so much at the same time, I don't think I could last long without him. He was my longest relationship and my first in love and sex. What should I do?

NO!!

How can someone really love you if they cheat on you??

If you are truly in love with a woman...then there is no one else in the world you want.

No. Once a cheater always a cheater. He sounds nasty.
You definitely deserve more than that. :-)

Not even going to read your question because it's to long and the title gives me all the info I need. The answer is no.

Once a cheat, always a cheat! Dont believe him!

No!!!!

just because he is ur first love and sex doesn't mean you won't have another...clearly this boy is no good and rubbish for you..he doesn;t deserve your love...

look i know i will say a billion things, but in the end its really up to you...if you feel you can trust him and that he won't do it again, then maybe u should forgive him...but it seems like he will do it again if he did it with more than one girl...and especially ur best friend....someone who does that does NOT dserve to be loved in a relationship and clearly he has no respect for you...

it also seems like he is a little horny....and ur just going to constantly feel like ur not enough...

u said u were young and this is a great thing...because now you can move on and find a new man who will treat u the way u deserve...or u can be single and have all the fun u want...

im sure u know what the best thing to do is...so follow your heart and do just that and don't look back.

just because he is ur first love and sex doesn't mean you won't have another...clearly this boy is no good and rubbish for you..he doesn;t deserve your love...

look i know i will say a billion things, but in the end its really up to you...if you feel you can trust him and that he won't do it again, then maybe u should forgive him...but it seems like he will do it again if he did it with more than one girl...and especially ur best friend....someone who does that does NOT dserve to be loved in a relationship and clearly he has no respect for you...

it also seems like he is a little horny....and ur just going to constantly feel like ur not enough...

u said u were young and this is a great thing...because now you can move on and find a new man who will treat u the way u deserve...or u can be single and have all the fun u want...

im sure u know what the best thing to do is...so follow your heart and do just that and don't look back.

Sigh...dont get back with him. A guy like that isnt gona magically change unless he really wants to. And it sounds like he wont since he constantly needs girl attention. Just ask yourself if thats the kind of guy you wana be stuck with and is he even worth it? I understand he was your first and everything and that really sucks but you really shouldnt stay with him, wether you leave him for good or not youre guna go through a hard time but if you stay with him itll last longer. at least if you leave him itll get better when you find someone that treats you nicely. You shouldnt have to put up with THAT much nonsense :/

I am a young girl of 18, and my boyfriend is a year older. We were happily together for about a year and a half until I found he had been trying to cheat while I was on holiday. I had came back, and we had decided to go to a party, although later we had an argument and I walked out. He then split up with me that night, claiming I had 'trust issues' and I 'controlled' him. All that night however he was texting me, telling me how he was nothing without me, he loved me and couldn't be without me. He also told me several of my mates were talking about me behind my back, including my best mate. We had an argument and fell out for several days. I was then told by a close friend what he had been up to that night. He swore he had not been talking about me with the others, but the truth was that he was telling everyone who would listen how crazy I was, how controlling I was, and every other name under the sun. He has also been trying it on with my best friend, had had made many sexual advances on her throughout the night, including flashing her and trying to get her to touch his genitals. I was also told that throughout the week I was on holiday he had been trying to flirt and seduce 2 separate girls. I saw the messages he had sent to them both on texts and social network sites, and confronted him. He broke down and admitted it all. I was so disgusted I ordered him out of my life, although once I had calmed down, we tried to talk it through. My boyfriend says he does not know why he did it, he was upset(although he could not be upset for an entire week) and he likes attention off girls. After asking around I had found out about another girl but that was just flirting. If I chose to believe rumours he also had phone sex several times and text dirty messages to another girl who lives up north. He insists I am the love of his life and we were meant to be, and sometimes I believe him. But then I think back to the relationship as a whole, and I am not so sure. He constantly told me what to do, what not to do, turn me and my friends against each other, and even though we are no longer together he still tells me what I can and cannot do. It's selfish but I never felt like I was treated the way I wanted to be, he never told me how pretty I was, or how much I meant to him, and even now, when my confidence is rock bottom he does not tell me if I am pretty or not without prompts. I hate him, but I love him so much at the same time, I don't think I could last long without him. He was my longest relationship and my first in love and sex. What should I do?