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My mother was forever educating me on sex, men and life.
I must say at first it was so embarrassing having my MOM telling me about the birds and the bees in such detail but for it I am so glad that she was so open and honest to me about it. Its allowed me to be very open and honest about sex with my fiance and communicating this way has allowed us to have a brilliant sex life.

I was just wondering how open you are to your children about sex and how open your parents were to you as a child?

My father is the very operate to my mother, sex is not something he talks about to any of us and he is very conservative about it.

My parents never told me anything and I resent them for that today. I grew up being so confused and misinformed. I had other children teaching me about things as serious as sex. IE: Things like if you have sex upside down you won't get pregnant.

As embarassing as it is for you, it is important to teach them. For some reason sex is such a taboo topic. My parents still act as if it doesn't even exist to this day and I am in my twenties. It is sad.

It may be embarrassing for them in the beginning, but they'll thank you for it, just as you are thankful your mom did
You need to at least teach the basics, because they'll learn about sex and school
If you don't talk about sex with your children, they won't feel comfortable in talking to you about sex, which you don't want
My parents were very closed about sex, so I had learned everything from school and my friends
I never did ask my parents any questions and it felt awkward, so talk to your kids

Your mother is doing the right thing.
Your sex ed SHOULD come from her.

Why in the hell would you want your kids to learn it from strangers?

I'm 55 and my mother has NEVER spoken to me about sex.
Even when I asked her as a child, she refused.

And what does "operate" mean?

Of course we talk to our children about sex. They will only get a lot of nonsense from the playground otherwise. There's no need to force the issue but we need to answer their questions honestly and appropriately and educate them.

I believe parents should talk openly to kids about sex ... you can explain things and warn them, friends sometimes give them the wrong facts or advice which is just more dangerous and confusing in the end

Your Mom has done the right thing...I believe it's every parent's duty to educate their kids about sex!!!xxxx

Your Mom has done the right thing...I believe it's every parent's duty to educate their kids about sex!!!xxxx

My mother used to get drunk and tell me to stay away from those little boys with hard *****...naturally I had to find out what that was all about! When I had my own 3, I didn't get drunk and start talking to them about sex that's for sure. I did get them age appropriate books and we sat down and read them together on a regular basis, I always let them know sex between a husband and wife was a natural thing and very enjoyable. As they grew older we'd talk openly every few months or as they had questions to ask. My boys always knew they could ask their dad anything and my daughter raised her share of questions to me. Sometimes the boys would want my opinion on stuff but most of the time their dad spoke to them very candidly about guy stuff. My kids never were embarrassed about it, nothing to be embarrassed about when they're raised to feel free to ask anything they want. The one thing that pissed me off was having my kids come home and tell me that teachers were pushing their beliefs and values on my kids and they felt it was none of their business. When it comes to a teacher not asking parental permission to talk to my kids about sex then I draw a hard line and I've taken many trips to clue teachers and principals to keep their views about sex to themselves or provide an optional lesson outside of the class room...they really hated seeing me come to school but I sent my kids to learn reading, writing and math not how to masturbate in 5th grade or how to go around parents to get birth control in middle school...

My mom was pretty straight forward about it. I'm pretty sure I already knew about sex and how babies were made in kindergartens. There was never any stork stories in my home, so I'm pretty sure my mom explained when she got pregnant with my brother. I was 4. I can't fully remember, but I do remember finding a book about pregnancy and intercourse in my primary school library and I remember already knowing what it was saying. We had our first sex ed class when I was 9 years old. Mostly about periods and body change, but they did tell us about sex too and condoms and pills. Not that any of us were interested in that part, but the rest was useful as a few of my classmates did get their first periods at that age. I also remember being given the lecture about sex and condoms by the school nurse when I was 11 during the medical check-up. It was incredibly embarrassing but again I already knew most of it and I'm pretty sure it came mostly from my mom. My mom always talked about it to me. We'd hear something about AIDS or pregnancy on the news and she'd tell me about it again. She asked me to go on the pill when I was 15, which I refused at first because I had no intention to have sex for another few years. But she told me being on the pill was also a way to make your periods more regular and after a discussion with the gynecologist, we realised that a major part of the depression I'd been going through for the few past years was actually a major case of PMS. I was told the pill would help so I went on it at 16. Still didn't have sex for years afterwards though. When I was 18, an older girl with a lot of experience told me that the first time doesn't hurt if you are not scared so you need to wait long enough. I was already well educated on waiting until you find someone you trust and truly love and not going for it too early by my mom and that was also my principle. Just to illustrate that education about sex does come from everywhere.
I don't remember my father telling me anything about it, but i guess that's mostly because he was working all the time while my mom raised us. His influence however was there in the fact that neither my bro or I were ever told any stork stories. My dad was very much against any fairy tale thing whether it was santa, the toothfairy or how babies are made. I wish I could have believed in santa, but I'm ok with having always known the truth about sex.
I often felt I was over-educated on sex. I have been explained everything so often at so many embarrassing moments and in so many embarrassing ways, I kinda felt like telling my mom that yeah I've heard all this before and leave me alone, but it has definitely helped making me responsible when it comes to sex, both emotionally and "medically" I guess.